The past is just a memory. The future is unforseeable. All we have is right here, right now.
This very moment.
I’m hearing stories of my father-in-law.
Of how he grew up with a twin sister and they were the second youngest of 17 kids.
Of how his first job working at gas station, he made $25 a week and would give most of it away to kids for new shoes, or to go to the circus, or for fries and drink, or to go to the movies.
Of how much he loved kids, particularly his grandkids. He would walk for hours to get a granddaughter to sleep when her father just couldn’t do it. He always had a joke or would act a clown to make them laugh. He would pass them his spare change. He always had a treat for them.
Of how he knew so many people and touched so many lives in big ways and small. Whether through an act of kindness, the giving of a nickname, or just talking their ears off, he was an influence far and wide.
Of his use of the English language. There were no swear words in his vocabulary, though he swore enough to make a sailor blush. To him they were just verbs, adverbs, and adjectives.
Of his days working as a welder. I’m told that whatever job he was on he was always one of the best. Though that doesn’t surprise me because he always took pride in his work.
Of how he loved company. He truly believed the more the merrier. He’d invite friends and tell them to bring their friends. It wasn’t uncommon for friends to arrive with their friend’s friends. Then he would start up the BBQ and feed you.
Of how some animals liked his home better than their owners’ home so they’d come live with him instead. He adopted stray cats. He adopted a bearded dragon that couldn’t travel with his granddaughter.
Of how he would bail kids out of trouble. He would give them a place to sleep when they were tired. He would feed them when they were hungry.
Of how much he gave. His money. His time. His tools. His Jeep. A listening ear or an earful. His home.
He gave me his greatest treasure… His daughter and his family. For that I’m forever grateful.
His memorial service was Saturday. There was food and a few swear words, the place was packed, memories shared and laughter rang through the tears.
So sorry for your loss. It sounds as though his legacy was well remembered!
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Thank you Matt. He his definitely well remembered. Though it’s still a hole in our life we’re learning how to fill.
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I can understand that. Time will fix that. 🙂
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Indeed it will.
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That was beautiful.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Thank you. That means a lot.
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#Goals, my brother. To have lived a portion of this is to have really lived. So glad your children are legacies to men like him and you.
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Thanks, Eli. We will do our best to live up to his legacy. #AimHigh
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So sorry for your family’s loss. I just lost my dad a few months ago. Keep telling those stories and sharing those memories and they never truly leave us.
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Thank you. Stories are all we have now. Fortunately, we have many. I’m sorry for your loss, too. They are special men, indeed.
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So sorry to hear about your loss Eric, you’ve written that beautifully. Wishing you and your family lots of strength in through these difficult times.
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Thank you so much, SB. We have lots of support and that’s been a blessing.
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I’m so sorry for your loss… Your father-in-law seems to have been quite a man! We must be grateful for people like him who passes in our lives.
Beautiful text, too! x
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Thank you Frede. He was quite a man, for sure! I’ve never met anyone like him. I am most defintely grateful that I got to meet him.
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There are some special people who just have that unique gift of never meeting a stranger, of loving without expectations, and of giving without a care of receiving. You are truly blessed to have had him in your life. May he rest in peace and I pray for comfort for you and your family during this time of loss.
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Thank you. Your kind words mean so much. He truly knew no strangers, just friends he hadn’t met yet. Unless they did something to piss him off. Then he had a few swear words to describe them. He is in a better place now… no more suffering.
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Sorry for your loss, Eric.Our condolences to you and your family. The memories will never be forgotten and the presence of the man amongst the stars will always be remembered. May he rest in his peace.
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Thanks, Ann. He certainly won’t be forgotten. We see “signs” of him everywhere we go and we see his traits in our kids (the temper, mostly 🙂 )
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Ooops! :p
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I’m so sorry for your loss. But that is the best kind of memorial – not some stodgy church service, but one in which the stories flow.
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It was a wonderful service with lots of memories. A final sending off he would have been proud of.
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Wow. Just ‘wow’. And a ‘thank you’ for this.
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Thank you, Alice. And you’re welcome.
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So sorry for your family’s loss, Eric. This was a beautiful memorial.
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Thanks, E. It was a tough loss to bear.
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I am so sorry for your loss. My deep condolences to you and your family. He sound like such a wonderful man and will be missed by a lot of people. xxx
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